Welcome

I hope you are looking for a great relationship for yourself, the skills to get along well with anyone, and ways to make the world a better place.  If you have, I’ve got ideas to share with you.  Here are some topics:

Which Essays are Popular? (Updated Feb 1st, 2012)

People are taking the time to read, download, and hand out my articles – over 100,000 readers in the last year read half a million articles. This is pretty powerful stuff, and I am very gratified that so many are valuing it. My deep goal is, of course, to get to the children. “Happier couples raise healthier kids.” And this advice works with any kind of relationship. With your help the world is a little better, a little more connected, than when we found it. Thanks. Continue reading

One Liners that have helped me stay Dialogical

I can think of nothing as important as getting to be, and staying, Dialogical. It makes possible solutions to all the relationship troubles.
This is the list of one line reminders that I have used over the past 15 years to remind me of “a better way of getting along.” I often have had a piece of paper with one of these phrases on my wall (sometimes many walls) at home or in my office where I can see it every day. These are learning tools. Continue reading

Points of View

Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I've also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material - not for beginners.] Continue reading