The Lizard is, of course, a metaphor, a model. It’s a way of looking at the part of all of us that manages safety and trust. My primary article on the Lizard was written after I detailed all it’s components …Continue reading →
This began as an answer to a question on the Marriage Advocates website. Twas written back in February of 2011. Quote: I have found that I’m very bad at identifying when other people’s lizard, particularly my partner’s, is triggered. I really …Continue reading →
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle
When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not. (Sadly, most people I meet chose war!) What do you chose? Here's my essay on this situation.
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle5
How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.
I wrote this in August 2010 in response to the postings of some friends in Marriage Advocates, directly on this topic. There are several life events that bring this drive toward Purpose in Life to the surface: a close-brush-with-death is good, retirement or closing-of-a-job in men, children-leaving-home in women are a few examples. In many writings this is called a midlife- or an identity-crisis. Whatever, we have to deal with it.
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle9
My friend, Scott Dodson, spent years reading and absorbing all the stuff I teach. The "method in his madness" was to write a marvelous fantasy book: kind of a "Harry Potter" meets Relationships. Alfred, the Turtle, not only is central, but seems to be able to fly! At least on the cover.
This was a story I heard read aloud at Christmas time at my primary school. As I read it today, I can still hear the deep voice of Mr. Caswell, the principle. It affected me greatly and shifted my life for the better.