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Passivity: In the foundations

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 4, 2008 by Al TurtleAugust 20, 2019 13

If you have been following my work through Part One: Master/Slave and Part Two: Power of Passivity, then this may be your next stop. I decided to share my path down a bit deeper into the basement. Be warned! The steps down here may be tippy.

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Posted in Autonomy, Reliable Membership | Tagged codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, passivity, safety, share, trust | 13 Replies

“MasterTalk”: Recognizing it gets even simpler

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 18, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 18, 2008  

Recognizing MasterTalk, avoiding it, reframing it gets simpler.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, share | Leave a reply

The Glories of Rebellion, Stubbornness and Passivity

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on December 30, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 6

Been thinking of this for some time. I keep finding that sometimes being Rebellious is the way to go. Sometimes Stubbornness is wonderful. Even sometimes Passivity is a jewel. But when? I've never shared my enthusiasm about rebelling and being stubborn, and I fear I have given passivity a "bad rap." Enjoy!

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Posted in Autonomy, Solving Problems | Tagged boundary, dialogue, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share | 6 Replies

Decision Making in a Heirarchy

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 14, 2007 by Al TurtleApril 11, 2018  

This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, narcisism, peace, point of view, pulling, share, trust | Leave a reply

Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2007 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.

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Posted in Autonomy, Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, narcisism, point of view, safety, share, trust | 2 Replies

The Power of Passivity: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 28, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 6

This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

What's in a Word: “Master” and “Slave”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 25, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 25, 2007  

I have been using the terms “Master” and “Slave” for quite some time and have not ever found any terms that are more useful in dealing with the problems of Autonomy. However, over the years my usage has stirred up some controversy and even distress in people. At this point I have no plans to change my terms. At the same time I thought I would share a bit about the wonderful controversies.

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Avoid becoming a Bully, yourself!

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on December 9, 2006 by Al TurtleAugust 25, 2015  

A conversation with a relationship therapist about avoiding becoming a Bully.

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Posted in Autonomy, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, safety, trust, validation | Leave a reply

(audio) Listen to the Master/Slave Lecture

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 10, 2006 by Al TurtleMarch 22, 2020  

Here is the Master/Slave Lecture AudioFile.  FREE DOWNLOAD The Master/Slave chart is here.  The Master/Slave Essay is here.

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Relativity and Relationships: Military Think

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 10, 2006 by Al TurtleJune 27, 2019  

I was amused to find that Einstein wrote about the same struggles I see in couples – who's point of view is the right one. Often a couple will say "we are arguing over the silliest of things." I usually reply, "I don't think so. I think you are struggling over something very important – who is boss. And this decision can seem like life and death." Here is more about this topic.

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