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Tag Archives: codependency

Books I Read

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 1, 2010 by Al TurtleSeptember 6, 2022  

I have received requests to list books that have been, and are, important to me in developing my thinking. Here I will organize that list, and link them to Amazon.com, so that you can get them. This list will grow as I think of them. I am just listing the ones that have been repeatably, and durably, “hot” for me. Enjoy!

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships | Tagged codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, share, university of life | Leave a reply

Passivity: In the foundations

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 4, 2008 by Al TurtleAugust 20, 2019 13

If you have been following my work through Part One: Master/Slave and Part Two: Power of Passivity, then this may be your next stop. I decided to share my path down a bit deeper into the basement. Be warned! The steps down here may be tippy.

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Posted in Autonomy, Reliable Membership | Tagged codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, passivity, safety, share, trust | 13 Replies

The Power of Passivity: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 28, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 6

This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

Avoid becoming a Bully, yourself!

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on December 9, 2006 by Al TurtleAugust 25, 2015  

A conversation with a relationship therapist about avoiding becoming a Bully.

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Posted in Autonomy, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, safety, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Glossary of Terms

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 7, 2006 by Al TurtleJanuary 24, 2023 2

This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, References, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Group Standards for Discussion

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 14, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

This is a letter I wrote to the Peace Project concerning my group's self-defined standards of Communologue.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Validation: The Skill and the Art

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 20, 2005 by Al TurtleOctober 11, 2022 5

When we listen, do we understand? When we speak, do we get to feel understood? The skills of understanding, making a person feel understood, and speaking so that someone can understand you, are very important. In this article I hope to be able to explain about this and start you on your way. Seek to become an expert. I think this is really worth the investment.

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Posted in Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, Imago, make sense, mirroring, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 5 Replies

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