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Handouts for My Basic Classes

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These are the Graphics  for my classes in Anacortes, WA.  I don’t know if we will use them, but I think it’s nice to have them available to refer to.

  1. Map of Relationships 
  2. Safety / Lizard
  3. Reliable Membership
  4. PreValidation, Validation – Icebergs
  5. Master Slave (simple); Master Slave (focused); Valley of the Masters
  6. Communication
  7. Boundaries for Individuals; Boundaries for Couples
  8. Frustration and Conflict
  9. Peace Building
  10. Survival: Notes for Clingers
  11. Full Relationship 

Meeting on Bridge, Glacier Park, Montana - 2012

Here are a few more that we may use:

Map of Relationships (B&W)
ValleyofMasters
DefendingDemocracy
Flow of Feelings

All People Make Sense
Idontknow
Idontknowhowtosayit
Blame or Self-Responsibility

 

Peace Building: The Essay

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When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not.  (Sadly, most people I meet chose war!) What do you chose?  Here's my essay on this situation.

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One Liners that have helped me stay Dialogical

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I can think of nothing as important as getting to be, and staying, Dialogical. It makes possible solutions to all the relationship troubles. This is the list of one line reminders that I have used over the past 15 years to remind me of "a better way of getting along." I often have had a piece of paper with one of these phrases on my wall (sometimes many walls) at home or in my office where I can see it every day. These are learning tools.

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The Road to Empathy: The Essay

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How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.

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Getting to Work

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Work, Work!  In this article I want to share my view of the process of how to get a great relationship from the very widest perspective. I suggest that you read my paper on the Map of Relationship first, to prepare to  grasp this view.

 

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Points of View

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Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]

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Using Al Turtle Logic on Relationship Troubles

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How to approach relationship challenges? Tis all about applying knowledge of the Biological Dream and learning those skills. Tis all about knowing where you currently are on the Map of Relationships. Here are some examples.

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The Other Feelings

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For years I have been teaching and “thinking” about Feelings. I have been teaching what I call , the Four Prime Feelings for years: Fear, Anger, Sorrow, and Joy. But more and more I have become aware of a set of feelings that are very important and which are not usually called emotions. I think they are.

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