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Handouts for My Basic Classes

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on October 22, 2014 by AlJune 16, 2019

These are the Graphics  for my classes in Anacortes, WA.  I don’t know if we will use them, but I think it’s nice to have them available to refer to.

  1. Map of Relationships 
  2. Safety / Lizard
  3. Reliable Membership
  4. PreValidation, Validation – Icebergs
  5. Master Slave (simple); Master Slave (focused); Valley of the Masters
  6. Communication
  7. Boundaries for Individuals; Boundaries for Couples
  8. Frustration and Conflict
  9. Peace Building
  10. Survival: Notes for Clingers
  11. Full Relationship 

Meeting on Bridge, Glacier Park, Montana - 2012

Here are a few more that we may use:

Map of Relationships (B&W)
ValleyofMasters
DefendingDemocracy
Flow of Feelings

All People Make Sense
Idontknow
Idontknowhowtosayit
Blame or Self-Responsibility

 

Peace Building: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not.  (Sadly, most people I meet chose war!) What do you chose?  Here's my essay on this situation.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

One Liners that have helped me stay Dialogical

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 4, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 7, 2014 1

I can think of nothing as important as getting to be, and staying, Dialogical. It makes possible solutions to all the relationship troubles. This is the list of one line reminders that I have used over the past 15 years to remind me of "a better way of getting along." I often have had a piece of paper with one of these phrases on my wall (sometimes many walls) at home or in my office where I can see it every day. These are learning tools.

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Posted in Main Page | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, peace, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 1 Reply

Relationship Posters for the Wall

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 3, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 8

 

In many ways, I am a slow learner. I have used many white sheets of paper with a saying on it. I posted these on the walls at my home and at my office, to keep reminding me over and over until my thick brain “get’s it.” Here are a bunch of them.

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Posted in Main Page | Tagged dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, mirroring, safety, trust | 8 Replies

The Road to Empathy: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 2, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 5

How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 5 Replies

Getting to Work

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 20, 2012 by Al TurtleApril 10, 2020 13

Work, Work!  In this article I want to share my view of the process of how to get a great relationship from the very widest perspective. I suggest that you read my paper on the Map of Relationship first, to prepare to  grasp this view.

 

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, choice point, dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 13 Replies

Points of View

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 8

Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | 8 Replies

Using Al Turtle Logic on Relationship Troubles

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 1, 2010 by Al TurtleNovember 22, 2019 17

How to approach relationship challenges? Tis all about applying knowledge of the Biological Dream and learning those skills. Tis all about knowing where you currently are on the Map of Relationships. Here are some examples.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 17 Replies

The Other Feelings

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleOctober 23, 2014 2

For years I have been teaching and “thinking” about Feelings. I have been teaching what I call , the Four Prime Feelings for years: Fear, Anger, Sorrow, and Joy. But more and more I have become aware of a set of feelings that are very important and which are not usually called emotions. I think they are.

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Posted in Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, need for connection, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Learning this Stuff: Put ’em Up!

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

A couple of days ago I got a note from a friend letting me in on her delight sharing the posters I have. Probably half a dozen times I have heard from people who used this method of learning the “wisdom” that I am passing on to you all.

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