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Peace Building: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not.  (Sadly, most people I meet chose war!) What do you chose?  Here's my essay on this situation.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

The Road to Empathy: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 2, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 5

How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 5 Replies

Why to Learn Validation?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 13, 2012 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 14

I was asked recently the simple question, "What's the big deal about Validation? Why is it so sought after?" This is what came to mind.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page | Tagged feelings, narcisism, safety, trust, validation | 14 Replies

Points of View

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 8

Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | 8 Replies

Using Al Turtle Logic on Relationship Troubles

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 1, 2010 by Al TurtleNovember 22, 2019 17

How to approach relationship challenges? Tis all about applying knowledge of the Biological Dream and learning those skills. Tis all about knowing where you currently are on the Map of Relationships. Here are some examples.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 17 Replies

Decision Making in a Heirarchy

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 14, 2007 by Al TurtleApril 11, 2018  

This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, narcisism, peace, point of view, pulling, share, trust | Leave a reply

Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2007 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.

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Posted in Autonomy, Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, narcisism, point of view, safety, share, trust | 2 Replies

You Make Sense – Always!

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 11, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 3

Probably no question has been put to me so often these days as to what I mean by the phrase “Make Sense.” The Diversity Principle: “All people make sense all the time,” is for me one of the most useful tools I've come up with. It allows me to connect with people who are doing things that I don?t at first understand or like. It allows me to continue to more and more fully understand myself. It is a keystone tool in helping people build self-esteem. And it is a tool that stands up clearly, setting me against what I call “the pathology of our culture.”

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, narcisism, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

To Imago Therapists

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2005 by Al TurtleFebruary 7, 2019 3

An open letter (probably with lots of typos) that I wrote to any and all Imago Therapists during my vacation in the mountains in early September 2005. In it I pose an important question. Is what I am doing "Imago?"

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Posted in Diversity, Personal, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

Are You a Controller? Sure you are.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 29, 2005 by Al TurtleAugust 30, 2022  

Probably about 70% of couples I see have a significant problem with controlling. What is this? How does it work? What can you do about it? In this article I will try to answer those questions and share solutions with you.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, fault, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

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