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Where do you start? What goes first?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on January 16, 2019 by Al TurtleApril 1, 2019 15

I often get asked this, and fortunately for me the answer is clear. But let's state the question more clearly. If I am in a couple, a relationship, what do I/we focus on first, second, third, etc. to make things better. Ok, here we go. The answer arises from two different major principles: the Anna Karenina Principle and the Biological Dream.

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Peace Building: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not.  (Sadly, most people I meet chose war!) What do you chose?  Here's my essay on this situation.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

The Road to Empathy: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 2, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 5

How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 5 Replies

Affairs and How I Approach the Topic

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 1, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 7, 2014 8

Prompted by a friend on an online forum (MarriageAdvocates) I decided to share my view of Affairs. You might call this a Lizard view of Affairs. (This is not beginner material.)

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Posted in Main Page, Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, feelings, need for connection, point of view, safety, trust | 8 Replies

Combating Loneliness

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 12, 2012 by AlJanuary 3, 2016 3

A short essay on the new phenomenon of Living Alone.  Seems that this is preferable to being in a relationship where you feel alone.  If your partner feels alone, what can you do to change this and prevent it?  What can you do to not feel alone yourself?  What can you do to impress a new acquaintance that they won't have to feel alone – with you?

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Posted in Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, mirroring, peace, point of view, pulling, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

Getting to Work

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 20, 2012 by Al TurtleApril 10, 2020 13

Work, Work!  In this article I want to share my view of the process of how to get a great relationship from the very widest perspective. I suggest that you read my paper on the Map of Relationship first, to prepare to  grasp this view.

 

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, choice point, dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 13 Replies

Points of View

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 8

Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | 8 Replies

Safety and The Lizard: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 20, 2009 by Al TurtleAugust 20, 2019 36

The first most important skill in any relationship is about how to create a tone of safety – how to reliably lower each other's blood pressure. This paper is the background.

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Posted in Diversity, Reliable Membership, Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, need for connection, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 36 Replies

Mine or Yours or ?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 21, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 2

I have been asked recently by people who are reading my papers on boundaries how to decide if something is mine or my partner's or what?? I was writing a response, and decided I'd better post it for everyone.

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Posted in Boundaries | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, point of view, pulling, share | 2 Replies

The Glories of Rebellion, Stubbornness and Passivity

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on December 30, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 5

Been thinking of this for some time. I keep finding that sometimes being Rebellious is the way to go. Sometimes Stubbornness is wonderful. Even sometimes Passivity is a jewel. But when? I've never shared my enthusiasm about rebelling and being stubborn, and I fear I have given passivity a "bad rap." Enjoy!

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Posted in Autonomy, Solving Problems | Tagged boundary, dialogue, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share | 5 Replies

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