Triage: Seeing trouble in Relationships Around You
I am beginning to use the word Triage to apply to the question, "How much should I get involved? How much energy is it wise to expend on this person? / this couple?"
Getting to Work
Work, Work! In this article I want to share my view of the process of how to get a great relationship from the very widest perspective. I suggest that you read my paper on the Map of Relationship first, to prepare to grasp this view.
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All My Pictures Are Here
If you've come here, it may be that the link you used pointed to some picture somewhere on my website. Pictures on this new site are confused. Until I can figure out how to fix all the links, you … Continue reading →
Kootenai Lake 2011
What to do when He/She Leaves?
People frequently come to me with this problem. Some years ago I came up with an answer and have not felt the need to change it. It works. Follow the four steps.
Two Medicine Lake, Glacier Park, MT
Points of View
Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]
A Problem with Mirroring. Solve it.
As I was learning to Mirror (a skill taught by all Imago therapists), I ran into a specific problem that often blocked communication just while people were trying to improve it. Solving this problem, I think, is critical to maintaining good relationships
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Here is the class I use to distinguish between the communication habits the lead to strive, struggle and distress and those that lead to peaceful coexistence.
Continue reading →Class on Mirroring
Here's the class that I use to teach mirroring. I teach every couple or individual using this class. It has all the critical points. Enjoy.
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