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Al’s Communologue Guidelines, Principles, Rules

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2021 by AlFebruary 17, 2021  

This is a very brief (bullet format) summary of the Rules and Principles I have used in guiding Communologue.

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A Problem with Mirroring. Solve it.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 7, 2010 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020  

As I was learning to Mirror (a skill taught by all Imago therapists), I ran into a specific problem that often blocked communication just while people were trying to improve it. Solving this problem, I think, is critical to maintaining good relationships

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Class on Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 2, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 2, 2016  

Here's the class that I use to teach mirroring. I teach every couple or individual using this class. It has all the critical points. Enjoy.

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Posted in Communication, Main Page | Tagged boundary, Imago, mirroring | Leave a reply

To be Safe You Must Share

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 13

People still ask me, How much should I tell my partner? This paper and chart have had quite an impact on people. In some cases it has been "life changing" after one reading. That has surprised and pleased me.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged affair, dialogue, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 13 Replies

“Out of the Blue” means “Read the Tea Leaves”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 37

So many times I've heard the phrase, "he/she did that out of the blue." I love the phrase. It seems so colorful. And also many people write me, and read my thoughts, about what to do when he/she leaves. Put these two issues together and I give you this article.

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Posted in Communication, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, dialogue, make sense, pulling, share, trust, validation | 37 Replies

Goals of Talking

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 10, 2008 by Al TurtleMay 17, 2012  

The Goal Of Communication in Relationships is that both persons feel understood frequently, and always when the subject is important to one or the other.
(I wrote this some years ago. See how all the ideas on my website are worked into it.)

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Notes: On Teaching Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 1, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 8, 2020 2

These are my notes for teaching Mirroring and for a class on “How to Teach Mirroring.”

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2007 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.

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Posted in Autonomy, Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, narcisism, point of view, safety, share, trust | 2 Replies

Facilitating Dialogue: A Strong Technique

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 25, 2007 by Al TurtleJanuary 3, 2014  

This is a technique I use in the office when people are very reactive about an incident. I use it often. I have noticed that I refer to it in one of my most popular articles – on Resentments. Yet, nowhere have I written up how to do it. So, here goes.

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Do you talk too much or too fast?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 9, 2007 by Al TurtleJuly 17, 2013 2

Do you talk too much or two fast? Hey, I do! On the one hand it is a wonderful advantage. It has also caused a lot of trouble for me – because it drives people crazy.

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Posted in Communication, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, share, trust | 2 Replies

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