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Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on January 20, 2019 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 43

If you have arrived here interested in getting a wonderful partnership, or interested in how to do better, or interested in saving your marriage or that of friends, parents or children, or just interested in specifics of how peaceful partnerships work, you have arrived at a right place.

And all this is free for the reading. What can you loose? My good wishes to you all. Go 4 It!

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Peace Building: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not.  (Sadly, most people I meet chose war!) What do you chose?  Here's my essay on this situation.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

One Liners that have helped me stay Dialogical

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 4, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 7, 2014 1

I can think of nothing as important as getting to be, and staying, Dialogical. It makes possible solutions to all the relationship troubles. This is the list of one line reminders that I have used over the past 15 years to remind me of "a better way of getting along." I often have had a piece of paper with one of these phrases on my wall (sometimes many walls) at home or in my office where I can see it every day. These are learning tools.

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Posted in Main Page | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, peace, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 1 Reply

The Road to Empathy: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 2, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 5

How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 5 Replies

Get the Book

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 30, 2013 by Al TurtleMarch 23, 2018 9

My friend, Scott Dodson, spent years reading and absorbing all the stuff I teach. The "method in his madness" was to write a marvelous fantasy book: kind of a "Harry Potter" meets Relationships. Alfred, the Turtle, not only is central, but seems to be able to fly!  At least on the cover. 

Turtle Logic and the University of Life

 

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships | Tagged essay, Imago | 9 Replies

A Problem with Mirroring. Solve it.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 7, 2010 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020  

As I was learning to Mirror (a skill taught by all Imago therapists), I ran into a specific problem that often blocked communication just while people were trying to improve it. Solving this problem, I think, is critical to maintaining good relationships

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Posted in Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, mirroring, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Class on Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 2, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 2, 2016  

Here's the class that I use to teach mirroring. I teach every couple or individual using this class. It has all the critical points. Enjoy.

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Posted in Communication, Main Page | Tagged boundary, Imago, mirroring | Leave a reply

Books I Read

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 1, 2010 by Al TurtleAugust 20, 2019  

I have received requests to list books that have been, and are, important to me in developing my thinking. Here I will organize that list, and link them to Amazon.com, so that you can get them. This list will grow as I think of them. I am just listing the ones that have been repeatably, and durably, “hot” for me. Enjoy!

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships | Tagged codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, share, university of life | Leave a reply

“Pulling Back, Not Pushing, yet Wanting to Talk.”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 7, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 1

Here's a letter by another clinger (Bless her and all the clingers out there), about learning from my website and applying what she has learned. Wow, working on yourself can be really eventful!

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Posted in Fan Letters | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 1 Reply

Peaceful Vacation Scheme

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 2

Here we are, about to head off on another vacation, and I promised that I would write down how we manage keeping it so much fun.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged dialogue, Imago, mirroring, pulling, share | 2 Replies

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