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“Out of the Blue” means “Read the Tea Leaves”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 37

So many times I've heard the phrase, "he/she did that out of the blue." I love the phrase. It seems so colorful. And also many people write me, and read my thoughts, about what to do when he/she leaves. Put these two issues together and I give you this article.

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Posted in Communication, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, dialogue, make sense, pulling, share, trust, validation | 37 Replies

Safety and The Lizard: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 20, 2009 by Al TurtleNovember 1, 2022 38

The first most important skill in any relationship is about how to create a tone of safety – how to reliably lower each other's blood pressure. This paper is the background.

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Posted in Diversity, Reliable Membership, Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, need for connection, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 38 Replies

Goals of Talking

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 10, 2008 by Al TurtleMay 17, 2012  

The Goal Of Communication in Relationships is that both persons feel understood frequently, and always when the subject is important to one or the other.
(I wrote this some years ago. See how all the ideas on my website are worked into it.)

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Posted in Communication, Reliable Membership | Tagged fault, make sense, pulling, validation | Leave a reply

“Pulling Back, Not Pushing, yet Wanting to Talk.”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 7, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 1

Here's a letter by another clinger (Bless her and all the clingers out there), about learning from my website and applying what she has learned. Wow, working on yourself can be really eventful!

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Posted in Fan Letters | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 1 Reply

Mine or Yours or ?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 21, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 2

I have been asked recently by people who are reading my papers on boundaries how to decide if something is mine or my partner's or what?? I was writing a response, and decided I'd better post it for everyone.

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Posted in Boundaries | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, point of view, pulling, share | 2 Replies

Feelings and Emotions: The Essay, Part Four, Appropriate Expression

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on January 22, 2008 by Al TurtleOctober 17, 2017 7

This is the last part of my essay on Feelings and Emotions. I am going to be speaking about “expression.” Now, lack of emotional expression, I believe, causes huge confusion in relationships and and will shorten your life. But, incorrect expression causes lots and lots of trouble, too. My goal is to focus on what I call “Appropriate Expression.” Many groups and cultures have strong rules about the “correct” way to express or hold in emotions. What I am going to write may seem to go against many of those rules – may seem critical of them. I do not choose to set myself up in that judgmental position. I simply want to share what I have learned.

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Posted in Diversity, Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 7 Replies

Caring Days: Discussion

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 7, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

This is my response to a great set of questions posted on my article on the Problem with Expectations. But it covers so much territory, I decided to repond with an article. My thanks to the Poster.

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Posted in Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, passivity, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Notes: On Teaching Validation

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 29, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

Notes on my seminar about Validation. I share what I have learned, how, and what I have come to believe validation is.

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged dialogue, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, point of view, safety, share, validation | Leave a reply

Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2007 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.

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Posted in Autonomy, Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, narcisism, point of view, safety, share, trust | 2 Replies

The Power of Passivity: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 28, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 6

This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

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