Notes: On Teaching Mirroring
These are my notes for teaching Mirroring and for a class on “How to Teach Mirroring.”
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Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)
Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.
Continue reading →Find Mr. Right or Ms. Right
This question comes in often. “I am single and am looking for a partner. I know I have defects. How do I attract the right partner, one I can work with? How do I go about it?”
Continue reading →Decision Making in a Heirarchy
This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.
Continue reading →Blessing or Cursing
“My assignment, years ago as I got older, was to find a younger person and bless them, once every day.” I can share this secret with you. Now, take your time reading this. It is a gift that I can pass on.
Continue reading →Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk
I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.
Continue reading →The Power of Passivity: The Essay
This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.
Practical Application of Communologue
This is a writeup of an application of Communologue in a project that I completed 2003-2004.
Continue reading →Phone Chat: On Frustrations
Yesterday I gave a chat to a group (about 32) of Imago Therapists on Frustrations. Here is that audiofile of that chat. It is about 1 hour long.
Continue reading →Facilitating Dialogue: A Strong Technique
This is a technique I use in the office when people are very reactive about an incident. I use it often. I have noticed that I refer to it in one of my most popular articles – on Resentments. Yet, nowhere have I written up how to do it. So, here goes.
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