I have been using the terms “Master” and “Slave” for quite some time and have not ever found any terms that are more useful in dealing with the problems of Autonomy. However, over the years my usage has stirred up some controversy and even distress in people. At this point I have no plans to change my terms. At the same time I thought I would share a bit about the wonderful controversies.
Continue reading →Do you talk too much or two fast? Hey, I do! On the one hand it is a wonderful advantage. It has also caused a lot of trouble for me – because it drives people crazy.
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All issues and problems that couples bring to my office are fair. Each person can lead the way out of the trouble. All problems EXCEPT ONE, that is. For one problem, there is only one person who can lead in the solution. This is the “Unfair Problem.”
A conversation with a relationship therapist about avoiding becoming a Bully.
Continue reading →Use this process when you want to apologize for something you have done. Its a way to say "I'm sorry" that works.
Continue reading →By Donald L. Gibbon. Northern Idaho sounds like it should be about as far away from 21st century social ills as you could get and still have access to modern America’s social benefits. Coeur d’Alene, known to demographers and government bureaucrats as CdA, has a population of only about 35,000, but it’s still the largest town in the state north of Boise, some 460 long miles to the south.
Continue reading →Some more thoughts on Guiding a Communologue Group. A new guideline added on Nov 1, '06.
Continue reading →A list of interventions that can be used to create and maintain a dialogical group atmosphere. A new guideline added on Nov 27, '07.
Continue reading →Print this form and use a copy in learning and practicing the healing process called Restructuring Frustrations. Restructuring Frustration Form
Continue reading →This is a beginner, Validation exercise. You are Uninformed at that point when you think your partner is doing something odd or that “doesn’t make sense to you.” If you were informed, you wouldn’t think it odd, and you would see your partner’s sense. Use this practice sheet to get good at Validating.
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