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Map of Relationships: 2003 Version

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 12, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 1

This is the whole story of intimate relationships. I wrote this early version in the September of 2003, after all the pieces had fallen into place in my head.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, university of life | 1 Reply

Reliable Membership: A Chart

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 9, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

This is the chart I share with couples who are experiencing this trouble.

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Reliable Membership: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 9, 2005 by Al TurtleOctober 23, 2014 99

I believe all humans require reliable connection with other humans. I see this as the principle drive that moves us, and holds us, together in partnership. At any given time one partner will probably need more and one will probably need less connection. Managing this becomes a challenge and sometimes an enormous stumbling block. Here are the principles and the solutions.

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Posted in Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 99 Replies

Safety and The Lizard: A Chart

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 9, 2005 by Al TurtleMarch 9, 2005  

This is the chart that goes with the Safety/Lizard Essay.

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The Biological Dream: An Excerpt

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 8, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 3

The Biological Dream is the core of my beliefs about the function of Romantic Relationships. This is an excerpt from my essay on the Map of Relationships.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged feelings, master-slave, safety, trust | 3 Replies

What kind of Community are we designed for?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 8, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

An article from 1999, that shows the development of my thinking at that point about the role of a community in safety for the individual.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged feelings, make sense, pulling, safety, trust | Leave a reply

What to do when he/she won’t talk to you.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 8, 2005 by Al TurtleFebruary 16, 2013 232

Amazingly this is a very common occurrance and there is something you can do.  I am particularly familiar with this …

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Posted in Communication, Reliable Membership | Tagged mirroring, pulling, safety, trust | 232 Replies

Becoming a Source of Safety

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 6, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 1

The Importance of the Skills of Being a Source of Safety to your Partner, Friends and Enemies. I have found …

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Posted in Safety and Trust | Tagged fault, feelings, safety, trust | 1 Reply

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