Map of Relationships: 2003 Version
This is the whole story of intimate relationships. I wrote this early version in the September of 2003, after all the pieces had fallen into place in my head.
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Reliable Membership: A Chart
This is the chart I share with couples who are experiencing this trouble.
Continue reading →Reliable Membership: The Essay
I believe all humans require reliable connection with other humans. I see this as the principle drive that moves us, and holds us, together in partnership. At any given time one partner will probably need more and one will probably need less connection. Managing this becomes a challenge and sometimes an enormous stumbling block. Here are the principles and the solutions.
Safety and The Lizard: A Chart
This is the chart that goes with the Safety/Lizard Essay.
Continue reading →The Biological Dream: An Excerpt
The Biological Dream is the core of my beliefs about the function of Romantic Relationships. This is an excerpt from my essay on the Map of Relationships.
Continue reading →What kind of Community are we designed for?
An article from 1999, that shows the development of my thinking at that point about the role of a community in safety for the individual.
Continue reading →What to do when he/she won’t talk to you.
Amazingly this is a very common occurrance and there is something you can do. I am particularly familiar with this …
Continue reading →Becoming a Source of Safety
The Importance of the Skills of Being a Source of Safety to your Partner, Friends and Enemies. I have found …
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