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The Logic of Power Differentials: Heirarchy and Dialogue

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 14, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 4

I am presenting this paper as a discussion of dialogue norms to use in Power Differential Relationships. My goal is to re-approach One-up/One-down situations from the relational model, the dialogical model that is central to Imago Relationship theory and practice.
The paper is divided into three sections:
1. Types of Power Differential Situations
2. Decision Making as the legitimate reason for Power Differential Situations
3. The Four Challenges facing groups trying to make decisions.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 4 Replies

Dear Turtle, (May 8th, 2005)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 6

"Dear Turtle, My question is – how possible is it to change one's response to fear – say from FIGHT to FLEE?" 

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Posted in Boundaries, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 6 Replies

Feelings and Emotions: The Essay, Part Two (FEAR, ANGER, GRIEF, JOY)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 13, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 3, 2024 6

Now, I want to address the four prime emotions of fear, anger, grief and joy. Why only four? Well, these are the ones that give most people lots of trouble, both in having them, dealing with them and communicating about them. I will address one at a time, starting with FEAR.

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Posted in Feelings and Emotions | Tagged affair, dialogue, essay, feelings, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 6 Replies

No one can make anyone do anything.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 12, 2005 by Al TurtleAugust 9, 2012  

Everything we do is the result of our thinking, our feelings, our habits. Our actions are not "caused" by others. I think this is a very valuable concept and nicely replaces several myths that most people seem to hold.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, point of view, pulling, share | Leave a reply

Being Dialogical: Sharing

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 24, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

I want share my beliefs that being “dialogical” very much involves choices of what to share, when to share it, and acute clarity about boundaries. One choice is the “to share or not to share” choice. Another is the “when to share and when not to share” choice. And another is the “how to share” choice.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, mirroring, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Did Dialogue Occur?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 23, 2005 by Al TurtleMay 3, 2012  

This is a way of scoring to see if you were experiencing dialogue or just normal chaotic conversation.

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Posted in Communication | Tagged dialogue, Imago, point of view, pulling | Leave a reply

Boundaries for Individuals: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 22, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 14

This is my paper on Boundaries for Individuals. This is everything I think a person needs to know about setting up and maintaining their differences when someone else is around. It contains all my thinking on personal boundaries. Enjoy.

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Posted in Boundaries | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, feelings, make sense, master-slave, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 14 Replies

MASTER/SLAVE, Two World Problem: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 22, 2005 by Al TurtleMarch 22, 2020 20

Summary: This paper covers the two ways that people can come together and share (or not) their different views of reality. Relating via Master/Slave is only functional in certain situations: where efficiency is needed as in business, where property ownership is involved, in emergencies. Relating via Friend/Friend is normal during courtship. Master/Slave, commonly used in intimate relationships or families, is dysfunctional. Learn the critical skills of Friend/Friend to end argument and prevent fighting.  This is the first of three parts on Autonomy. 

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share | 20 Replies

Diversity and PreValidation: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 20, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 6, 2022 5

This is the lesson I teach every person I see. This is critical information for people who are puzzled, bothered, or upset when they find they disagree or that others disagree with them.

These concepts are vital to the practice of Dialogue and Communologue.

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, point of view, safety, share, validation | 5 Replies

PreValidation: More Thoughts

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2005 by Al TurtleMarch 17, 2005  

Here are some more thoughts about PreValidation and Validation.

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, make sense, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, share, validation | Leave a reply

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