How much should you tell?
This discusses a great and eroding problem within a relationship: keeping silent, keeping secrets.
Continue reading →This discusses a great and eroding problem within a relationship: keeping silent, keeping secrets.
Continue reading →A listing of possible relationship problems – linked to solutions.
Continue reading →This paper discusses the issue of Resentment that from time to time becomes an important issue in couples or between groups of people. It includes suggestions on how to remove the resentment. I believe this cannot be done, passively, by waiting. Resentment does not seem to go away by letting time pass. I believe resentment only goes away via the use of validation, and dialogue.
Continue reading →I tell this story , as a gift from my friend Jack, to anyone I meet who has a short temper or who is around someone with a short temper.
Continue reading →In Taoist perspective even good and evil lose their absolute character. I share this with people who firmly believe their point of view is the right one.
Continue reading →Handling the language of Master/Slave Relationships
Continue reading →This is the whole story of intimate relationships. I wrote this early version in the September of 2003, after all the pieces had fallen into place in my head.
Continue reading →I believe all humans require reliable connection with other humans. I see this as the principle drive that moves us, and holds us, together in partnership. At any given time one partner will probably need more and one will probably need less connection. Managing this becomes a challenge and sometimes an enormous stumbling block. Here are the principles and the solutions.
Continue reading →This is the chart that goes with the Safety/Lizard Essay.
Continue reading →The Biological Dream is the core of my beliefs about the function of Romantic Relationships. This is an excerpt from my essay on the Map of Relationships.
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