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Resentments: Getting Rid of Them

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This paper discusses the issue of Resentment that from time to time becomes an important issue in couples or between groups of people. It includes suggestions on how to remove the resentment. I believe this cannot be done, passively, by waiting. Resentment does not seem to go away by letting time pass. I believe resentment only goes away via the use of validation, and dialogue.

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Map of Relationships: 2003 Version

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This is the whole story of intimate relationships. I wrote this early version in the September of 2003, after all the pieces had fallen into place in my head.

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Reliable Membership: The Essay

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I believe all humans require reliable connection with other humans. I see this as the principle drive that moves us, and holds us, together in partnership. At any given time one partner will probably need more and one will probably need less connection. Managing this becomes a challenge and sometimes an enormous stumbling block. Here are the principles and the solutions.

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