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Feelings and Emotions: The Essay, Part Four, Appropriate Expression

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on January 22, 2008 by Al TurtleOctober 17, 2017 6

This is the last part of my essay on Feelings and Emotions. I am going to be speaking about “expression.” Now, lack of emotional expression, I believe, causes huge confusion in relationships and and will shorten your life. But, incorrect expression causes lots and lots of trouble, too. My goal is to focus on what I call “Appropriate Expression.” Many groups and cultures have strong rules about the “correct” way to express or hold in emotions. What I am going to write may seem to go against many of those rules – may seem critical of them. I do not choose to set myself up in that judgmental position. I simply want to share what I have learned.

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Posted in Diversity, Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

The Glories of Rebellion, Stubbornness and Passivity

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on December 30, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 5

Been thinking of this for some time. I keep finding that sometimes being Rebellious is the way to go. Sometimes Stubbornness is wonderful. Even sometimes Passivity is a jewel. But when? I've never shared my enthusiasm about rebelling and being stubborn, and I fear I have given passivity a "bad rap." Enjoy!

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Posted in Autonomy, Solving Problems | Tagged boundary, dialogue, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share | 5 Replies

Notes: On Teaching Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 1, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 8, 2020 2

These are my notes for teaching Mirroring and for a class on “How to Teach Mirroring.”

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 18, 2007 by Al TurtleDecember 7, 2017  

Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Decision Making in a Heirarchy

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 14, 2007 by Al TurtleApril 11, 2018  

This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, narcisism, peace, point of view, pulling, share, trust | Leave a reply

The Power of Passivity: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 28, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 6

This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

Practical Application of Communologue

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 15, 2007 by Al TurtleJanuary 3, 2014 4

This is a writeup of an application of Communologue in a project that I completed 2003-2004.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged boundary, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, trust, validation | 4 Replies

Facilitating Dialogue: A Strong Technique

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 25, 2007 by Al TurtleJanuary 3, 2014  

This is a technique I use in the office when people are very reactive about an incident. I use it often. I have noticed that I refer to it in one of my most popular articles – on Resentments. Yet, nowhere have I written up how to do it. So, here goes.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged dialogue, feelings, mirroring, point of view, pulling, safety, share, validation | Leave a reply

Working, Long-Term, on your Marriage / Relationship

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 30, 2006 by Al TurtleApril 13, 2013  

Working for the long haul. Let's say you two make it through learning the skills critical to "getting along." Now what? Here's the view after you get over that first hump.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships | Tagged fault, feelings, Imago, pulling, safety, trust, university of life | Leave a reply

An Application of Communologue: United Way of Kootenai County

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 11, 2006 by Al TurtleJanuary 21, 2017  

By Donald L. Gibbon. Northern Idaho sounds like it should be about as far away from 21st century social ills as you could get and still have access to modern America’s social benefits. Coeur d’Alene, known to demographers and government bureaucrats as CdA, has a population of only about 35,000, but it’s still the largest town in the state north of Boise, some 460 long miles to the south.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, mirroring, point of view, pulling, safety, trust, validation | Leave a reply

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