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To be Safe You Must Share

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 13

People still ask me, How much should I tell my partner? This paper and chart have had quite an impact on people. In some cases it has been "life changing" after one reading. That has surprised and pleased me.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged affair, dialogue, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 13 Replies

“Out of the Blue” means “Read the Tea Leaves”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 37

So many times I've heard the phrase, "he/she did that out of the blue." I love the phrase. It seems so colorful. And also many people write me, and read my thoughts, about what to do when he/she leaves. Put these two issues together and I give you this article.

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Posted in Communication, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, dialogue, make sense, pulling, share, trust, validation | 37 Replies

Current Violence: Take a look

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 3, 2014 1

So I get to chat about the current spate of violence in the US and my thougths about its origins and its current manipulation in the media. If you are looking for solutions, I will have to think some more.

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Posted in Main Page, Peace Building | Tagged fault, feelings, pulling | 1 Reply

When to Fold ’Em?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleOctober 16, 2018 246

“If my partner is moving away, is leaving me, when should I give up? How do I make that decision?” The decision you want is a) that your partner decides to come back toward you or b) that you reasonably get to stop waiting for them.

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Posted in Main Page | Tagged feelings, pulling | 246 Replies

Safety and The Lizard: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 20, 2009 by Al TurtleAugust 20, 2019 36

The first most important skill in any relationship is about how to create a tone of safety – how to reliably lower each other's blood pressure. This paper is the background.

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Posted in Diversity, Reliable Membership, Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, need for connection, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 36 Replies

Goals of Talking

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 10, 2008 by Al TurtleMay 17, 2012  

The Goal Of Communication in Relationships is that both persons feel understood frequently, and always when the subject is important to one or the other.
(I wrote this some years ago. See how all the ideas on my website are worked into it.)

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“Pulling Back, Not Pushing, yet Wanting to Talk.”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 7, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 1

Here's a letter by another clinger (Bless her and all the clingers out there), about learning from my website and applying what she has learned. Wow, working on yourself can be really eventful!

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Posted in Fan Letters | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 1 Reply

“He's leaving. I'm trying.”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 6, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 3

This is the story of a woman who believes her partner is leaving, and doesn't want him to. She kinda followed him across the country, but managed to keep learning the lesson, “Work on your self, visibly.” She's good, but learning is not easy! (Names have been changed)

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Posted in Fan Letters, Map of Relationships | Tagged dialogue, fault, feelings, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

Peaceful Vacation Scheme

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 2

Here we are, about to head off on another vacation, and I promised that I would write down how we manage keeping it so much fun.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged dialogue, Imago, mirroring, pulling, share | 2 Replies

Mine or Yours or ?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 21, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 2

I have been asked recently by people who are reading my papers on boundaries how to decide if something is mine or my partner's or what?? I was writing a response, and decided I'd better post it for everyone.

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Posted in Boundaries | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, point of view, pulling, share | 2 Replies

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