Caring Days: Discussion
This is my response to a great set of questions posted on my article on the Problem with Expectations. But it covers so much territory, I decided to repond with an article. My thanks to the Poster.
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Guilt, Fault, and Who is to Blame
My gosh, people get this simple issue so confused. It isn’t all that difficult. Here’s my poster on it.
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Continue reading →Notes: On Teaching Validation
Notes on my seminar about Validation. I share what I have learned, how, and what I have come to believe validation is.
Continue reading →Notes: On Teaching Mirroring
These are my notes for teaching Mirroring and for a class on “How to Teach Mirroring.”
Continue reading →Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)
Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.
Continue reading →Decision Making in a Heirarchy
This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.
Continue reading →Blessing or Cursing
“My assignment, years ago as I got older, was to find a younger person and bless them, once every day.” I can share this secret with you. Now, take your time reading this. It is a gift that I can pass on.
Continue reading →Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk
I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.
Continue reading →The Power of Passivity: The Essay
This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.
Facilitating Dialogue: A Strong Technique
This is a technique I use in the office when people are very reactive about an incident. I use it often. I have noticed that I refer to it in one of my most popular articles – on Resentments. Yet, nowhere have I written up how to do it. So, here goes.
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