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Vintage Love: What does it look like?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJuly 11, 2013 1

I got this question, recently. Apparently in my Map of Relationships I have not described it enough. I guess I just referred to it as a "place" that people, all people want to go to. Well, ok, I'll share some thoughts on it.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, master-slave, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 1 Reply

Safety and The Lizard: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 20, 2009 by Al TurtleNovember 1, 2022 38

The first most important skill in any relationship is about how to create a tone of safety – how to reliably lower each other's blood pressure. This paper is the background.

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Posted in Diversity, Reliable Membership, Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, need for connection, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 38 Replies

Peaceful Vacation Scheme

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 2

Here we are, about to head off on another vacation, and I promised that I would write down how we manage keeping it so much fun.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged dialogue, Imago, mirroring, pulling, share | 2 Replies

Feelings and Emotions: The Essay, Part Four, Appropriate Expression

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on January 22, 2008 by Al TurtleOctober 17, 2017 7

This is the last part of my essay on Feelings and Emotions. I am going to be speaking about “expression.” Now, lack of emotional expression, I believe, causes huge confusion in relationships and and will shorten your life. But, incorrect expression causes lots and lots of trouble, too. My goal is to focus on what I call “Appropriate Expression.” Many groups and cultures have strong rules about the “correct” way to express or hold in emotions. What I am going to write may seem to go against many of those rules – may seem critical of them. I do not choose to set myself up in that judgmental position. I simply want to share what I have learned.

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Posted in Diversity, Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 7 Replies

Notes: On Teaching Validation

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 29, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

Notes on my seminar about Validation. I share what I have learned, how, and what I have come to believe validation is.

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged dialogue, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, point of view, safety, share, validation | Leave a reply

Notes: On Teaching Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 1, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 8, 2020 2

These are my notes for teaching Mirroring and for a class on “How to Teach Mirroring.”

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 18, 2007 by Al TurtleDecember 7, 2017  

Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Decision Making in a Heirarchy

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 14, 2007 by Al TurtleApril 11, 2018  

This is an excerpt from my paper on Dialogue in a Hierarchy. It focuses on decision making. It now includes a chart.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, narcisism, peace, point of view, pulling, share, trust | Leave a reply

Blessing or Cursing

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 31, 2007 by Al TurtleMay 31, 2007  

“My assignment, years ago as I got older, was to find a younger person and bless them, once every day.” I can share this secret with you. Now, take your time reading this. It is a gift that I can pass on.

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The Power of Passivity: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 28, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 6

This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

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