Hey, I know you can see things that your partner could improve. The longer you live with someone, the more you can see their potential – which is the flip side of saying “their shortcomings.”
The question is, what do you do with this information?
Learn Good Communication: It is not that hard, but it does take training. Communication is a skill. If you don't have good communication, it just means you had poor training. Good communication comes naturally to those who were taught good communication as children. It is never to late to learn. If poor communications is your problem, fix it. Learn. I did.
Continue reading →Better Marriages: I believe this is your right, and you are designed for it. And I believe it is very possible. It just takes effort. This site is dedicated to sharing with you what I believe you need to do to make this happen. Thank you for visiting, and enjoy.
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Even as I began to understand about boundaries for individuals, I was still stunned by what wildness happens in a committed couple. People keep telling me that they can get along with anyone except their partner at home. I frequently watch professionally competent couples act like little, tantrum-throwing, children in my office. What are the boundary issues that make the experiences of couples, or an intimate relationships, so powerful? This paper covers what I have learned going on.
"Dear Turtle, My question is – how possible is it to change one's response to fear – say from FIGHT to FLEE?"
Continue reading →Whenever I think I know what someone else “should” do I remember this story.
Continue reading →Now, I want to address the four prime emotions of fear, anger, grief and joy. Why only four? Well, these are the ones that give most people lots of trouble, both in having them, dealing with them and communicating about them. I will address one at a time, starting with FEAR.
One important issue that all couples face is making things fair and keeping them that way. I believe things are fair when two people both believe they are fair. When either thinks it's not fair, then it isn't. Takes only one for unfairness, and it takes two for it to be fair.
Continue reading →Everything we do is the result of our thinking, our feelings, our habits. Our actions are not "caused" by others. I think this is a very valuable concept and nicely replaces several myths that most people seem to hold.
Continue reading →So many time I have found it useful to have learned about emotions. I was not taught any of this when I was kid. My Masters paper was written upon Anger: A Resource Paper for Teachers. If you are confused about the role of emotions in your life, here we go with all the answers.