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Boundaries for Couples: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 10, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 22

Even as I began to understand about boundaries for individuals, I was still stunned by what wildness happens in a committed couple. People keep telling me that they can get along with anyone except their partner at home. I frequently watch professionally competent couples act like little, tantrum-throwing, children in my office. What are the boundary issues that make the experiences of couples, or an intimate relationships, so powerful? This paper covers what I have learned going on.

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Posted in Boundaries, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mirroring, narcisism, pulling, safety, share, trust | 22 Replies

Caring Days: The Skill

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 12, 2005 by Al TurtleApril 12, 2005 6

One important issue that all couples face is making things fair and keeping them that way. I believe things are fair when two people both believe they are fair. When either thinks it's not fair, then it isn't. Takes only one for unfairness, and it takes two for it to be fair.

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Posted in Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, mirroring, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

Excellent Boundaries

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 24, 2005 by Al TurtleJuly 7, 2023 6

Several years ago, I was asked during a class, “How do you know that you have a great relationship?” I found myself mentioning four attributes – one was “excellent boundaries.” Someone then asked, “How would you recognize excellent boundaries? What are their indicators?” I thought about that for several weeks. I came up with a list. I have found this list quite provocative.

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Posted in Boundaries, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, make sense, mirroring, share, validation | 6 Replies

Did Dialogue Occur?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 23, 2005 by Al TurtleMay 3, 2012  

This is a way of scoring to see if you were experiencing dialogue or just normal chaotic conversation.

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Posted in Communication | Tagged dialogue, Imago, point of view, pulling | Leave a reply

Emotional Symbiosis: Definition

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 20, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 20, 2018 2

From the point of view of relationships, I think this “the disease of the disease”, the source behind so much trouble. Most everyone in our country suffers from this disease. And it is even taught on TV. I believe this is the source of MasterTalk.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged Imago, narcisism | 2 Replies

PreValidation: More Thoughts

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2005 by Al TurtleMarch 17, 2005  

Here are some more thoughts about PreValidation and Validation.

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, make sense, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, share, validation | Leave a reply

Resentments: Getting Rid of Them

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2005 by Al TurtleAugust 8, 2013 21

This paper discusses the issue of Resentment that from time to time becomes an important issue in couples or between groups of people. It includes suggestions on how to remove the resentment. I believe this cannot be done, passively, by waiting. Resentment does not seem to go away by letting time pass. I believe resentment only goes away via the use of validation, and dialogue.

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Posted in Diversity, Healing the Past, Reliable Membership, Solving Problems | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 21 Replies

Story: The Water Buffalo

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 15, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

This story is about hopeless habit of pointing fingers at the action or the one who “angers you.” I call it “Where to focus when you are upset.”

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Map of Relationships: 2003 Version

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 12, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 1

This is the whole story of intimate relationships. I wrote this early version in the September of 2003, after all the pieces had fallen into place in my head.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, university of life | 1 Reply

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