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“MasterTalk”: Recognizing it gets even simpler

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 18, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 18, 2008  

Recognizing MasterTalk, avoiding it, reframing it gets simpler.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, share | Leave a reply

Feelings and Emotions: The Essay, Part Four, Appropriate Expression

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on January 22, 2008 by Al TurtleOctober 17, 2017 7

This is the last part of my essay on Feelings and Emotions. I am going to be speaking about “expression.” Now, lack of emotional expression, I believe, causes huge confusion in relationships and and will shorten your life. But, incorrect expression causes lots and lots of trouble, too. My goal is to focus on what I call “Appropriate Expression.” Many groups and cultures have strong rules about the “correct” way to express or hold in emotions. What I am going to write may seem to go against many of those rules – may seem critical of them. I do not choose to set myself up in that judgmental position. I simply want to share what I have learned.

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Posted in Diversity, Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 7 Replies

Getting an Answer: When He/She Won’t Make a Decision

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 26, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 21

A recent letter sparked me to thinking about how I handle this tough situation. I have been using this all purpose skill for a dozen years, recommending it to my clients. Some use it. Some don’t. Sometimes it makes things “better.” Sometimes it seems to make things “worse.” Life is like that. Take a-look.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership, Solving Problems | Tagged affair, feelings, trust, university of life | 21 Replies

Skindiving Mistakes: Depending Too Much on Him/Her

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 22, 2007 by Al TurtleOctober 30, 2012  

This is part of the set of problems I’ve found in connecting reliably to another person. In it I am looking mostly at the situation from the point of view of the clinging or more needy partner. Heck, that was me. And it is a bit of history. I wrote this about 8 years ago as I was figuring out the problem of, and solution to, Reliable Membership.

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Posted in Reliable Membership | Tagged feelings, point of view, trust | Leave a reply

Caring Days: Discussion

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 7, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

This is my response to a great set of questions posted on my article on the Problem with Expectations. But it covers so much territory, I decided to repond with an article. My thanks to the Poster.

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Posted in Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, passivity, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Lizard Chats: Seeing as our little friend sees it.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on October 29, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 16, 2012 1

This is a continuation of a discussion begun based on my paper on Safety and the Lizard Brain. An exercise in seeing the partnership of the reptilian brain, how it works, what it is trying to do. Click here for the original article on Safety.

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Posted in Safety and Trust | Tagged boundary, essay, feelings, Imago, safety, trust | 1 Reply

Notes: On Teaching Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 1, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 8, 2020 2

These are my notes for teaching Mirroring and for a class on “How to Teach Mirroring.”

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 18, 2007 by Al TurtleDecember 7, 2017  

Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Find Mr. Right or Ms. Right

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 21, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 21

This question comes in often. “I am single and am looking for a partner. I know I have defects. How do I attract the right partner, one I can work with? How do I go about it?”

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Posted in Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged feelings, Imago, point of view, safety, trust, university of life | 21 Replies

Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2007 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.

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Posted in Autonomy, Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, narcisism, point of view, safety, share, trust | 2 Replies

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