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Class on Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 2, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 2, 2016  

Here's the class that I use to teach mirroring. I teach every couple or individual using this class. It has all the critical points. Enjoy.

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Posted in Communication, Main Page | Tagged boundary, Imago, mirroring | Leave a reply

Books I Read

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 1, 2010 by Al TurtleSeptember 6, 2022  

I have received requests to list books that have been, and are, important to me in developing my thinking. Here I will organize that list, and link them to Amazon.com, so that you can get them. This list will grow as I think of them. I am just listing the ones that have been repeatably, and durably, “hot” for me. Enjoy!

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships | Tagged codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, share, university of life | Leave a reply

Using Al Turtle Logic on Relationship Troubles

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 1, 2010 by Al TurtleNovember 22, 2019 17

How to approach relationship challenges? Tis all about applying knowledge of the Biological Dream and learning those skills. Tis all about knowing where you currently are on the Map of Relationships. Here are some examples.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 17 Replies

An Interview Series

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 7

Tis done. Here are 8 hours of chatting about my work. Laura is a very helpful interviewer and producer. Check out other work she does. This article has the links to MP3 files of all sessions. Download and enjoy.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships, Podcasts | Tagged boundary, mirroring, passivity, safety, trust | 7 Replies

Partnership Vows

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 16, 2010 by Al TurtleAugust 21, 2012  

I was asked recently about vows for a wedding or for committing to a special partner. The request was to include the Biological Dream and the idea of a journey together. Here's the result. Twas a fun exercise.

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Learn Validation! Get really good at it. Tis just an idea.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 8, 2010 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019  

FOR INSPIRATION, TRY THIS! This sort of thing doesn't come often to an old therapist, but it is welcome. Here's an ex-client who, I think, got it. “You can either be in Relationship or Right. You can either Validate or be Right. You can either be Empathic or be Right. Take your pick.” Thanks to you, friend.

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Our Forest Murrain

Late last fall foresters did a whole bunch of selective tree harvesting along our usual morning walk.  They left bare a lot or large granite boulders.  This one looked like a giant cannon ball and was high above our walk.  Each day, afterwards, we would walk by quickly expecting a ton of rock to make our day.  

So one day when we were marking our property line to warn off hunters, we thought of marking that rock.  Climbing up, we found that it was huge and deeply buried.  Even so, we put a smile on it. 

Ever since it has welcomed us on our walk.  With a chuckle it told us it was a forest murrain.  And the name has stuck.

February 24, 2010 by Al Turtle Posted in Drive Abouts Reply

Cabo, Evening Peaceful Moments

February 10, 2010 by Al Turtle Posted in Mexico Reply

Corridor to our room. Pueblo Bonito (Blanco)

February 10, 2010 by Al Turtle Posted in Mexico Reply

The Other Feelings

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleOctober 23, 2014 2

For years I have been teaching and “thinking” about Feelings. I have been teaching what I call , the Four Prime Feelings for years: Fear, Anger, Sorrow, and Joy. But more and more I have become aware of a set of feelings that are very important and which are not usually called emotions. I think they are.

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Posted in Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, need for connection, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

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