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Map of Relationship, Short Form

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on October 19, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

When I don't have much time with an audience, I often share this brief version of a Map of Relationships. I can give this in about 10 minutes and still point people in the "right" direction.

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Posted in Map of Relationships | Tagged boundary, dialogue, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust | Leave a reply

To Imago Therapists

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2005 by Al TurtleFebruary 7, 2019 3

An open letter (probably with lots of typos) that I wrote to any and all Imago Therapists during my vacation in the mountains in early September 2005. In it I pose an important question. Is what I am doing "Imago?"

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Posted in Diversity, Personal, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

Healing Frustrations: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 16, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 3, 2017  

I believe that Frustrations are the critical element to making progress in a Relationship. Healing Frustrations is the key. I call it the ?ratchet? process because , like a ratchet wrench, it makes things move forward and you can?t back up. The following essay contains what I see as the background for dealing with frustrations. It clears up a lot of misunderstandings and can help you stop wasting time and energy in doing things that do not work.

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Posted in Healing the Past | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Thank Heavens for Bullies. We need them.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 28, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

Sometimes people get the impression that I want all bullies to go away. But I really think they are valuable. Where would we all be without them? Now, what am I talking about!?

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, peace, point of view, safety, share | Leave a reply

Story: Stripey, Helping other people relax.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 25, 2005 by Al TurtleNovember 13, 2013 1

A particular puzzle is how to relax other people when they get tense. This true story of an old cat may help – in a kind of backwards way.

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Posted in Stories | Tagged dialogue, peace, safety, share, trust | 1 Reply

Dialogical Groups: Communologue

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 14, 2005 by Al TurtleOctober 25, 2012  

I am currently leading a group based on Communologue principles. These are the core of dialogical skills originally formulated in Imago Relationship, but recently expanded by the Imago Peace Project to include critical factors missing in Imago. Members of the Imago Peace Project (http://imagopeaceproject.org) can teach you these Communologue skills.

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Posted in Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust | Leave a reply

Are You a Controller? Sure you are.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 29, 2005 by Al TurtleAugust 30, 2022  

Probably about 70% of couples I see have a significant problem with controlling. What is this? How does it work? What can you do about it? In this article I will try to answer those questions and share solutions with you.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, fault, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Peace Decays into War in Discrete Steps

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 20, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

A chart of how normal discourse collapses thru arguing, thru violence, into the form of communication we call WARFARE.

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The Logic of Power Differentials: Heirarchy and Dialogue

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 14, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 4

I am presenting this paper as a discussion of dialogue norms to use in Power Differential Relationships. My goal is to re-approach One-up/One-down situations from the relational model, the dialogical model that is central to Imago Relationship theory and practice.
The paper is divided into three sections:
1. Types of Power Differential Situations
2. Decision Making as the legitimate reason for Power Differential Situations
3. The Four Challenges facing groups trying to make decisions.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 4 Replies

Dear Turtle, (May 8th, 2005)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 6

"Dear Turtle, My question is – how possible is it to change one's response to fear – say from FIGHT to FLEE?" 

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Posted in Boundaries, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | 6 Replies

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