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An Interview Series

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 7

Tis done. Here are 8 hours of chatting about my work. Laura is a very helpful interviewer and producer. Check out other work she does. This article has the links to MP3 files of all sessions. Download and enjoy.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships, Podcasts | Tagged boundary, mirroring, passivity, safety, trust | 7 Replies

The Other Feelings

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleOctober 23, 2014 2

For years I have been teaching and “thinking” about Feelings. I have been teaching what I call , the Four Prime Feelings for years: Fear, Anger, Sorrow, and Joy. But more and more I have become aware of a set of feelings that are very important and which are not usually called emotions. I think they are.

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Posted in Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, need for connection, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

To be Safe You Must Share

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 13

People still ask me, How much should I tell my partner? This paper and chart have had quite an impact on people. In some cases it has been "life changing" after one reading. That has surprised and pleased me.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged affair, dialogue, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 13 Replies

“Your Stuff is Never My Fault”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleNovember 22, 2019 2

When someone says, “I’m hurt” or “That upsets me,” or “I'm anxious,” what is a useful response? I find this is a central problem in the common co-dependency I see. Here are some ideas and links to deeper understanding.

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Posted in Boundaries, Main Page | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, mirroring, passivity, share | 2 Replies

Peaceful Vacation Scheme

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 2

Here we are, about to head off on another vacation, and I promised that I would write down how we manage keeping it so much fun.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged dialogue, Imago, mirroring, pulling, share | 2 Replies

“MasterTalk”: Recognizing it gets even simpler

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 18, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 18, 2008  

Recognizing MasterTalk, avoiding it, reframing it gets simpler.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, share | Leave a reply

Feelings and Emotions: The Essay, Part Four, Appropriate Expression

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on January 22, 2008 by Al TurtleOctober 17, 2017 7

This is the last part of my essay on Feelings and Emotions. I am going to be speaking about “expression.” Now, lack of emotional expression, I believe, causes huge confusion in relationships and and will shorten your life. But, incorrect expression causes lots and lots of trouble, too. My goal is to focus on what I call “Appropriate Expression.” Many groups and cultures have strong rules about the “correct” way to express or hold in emotions. What I am going to write may seem to go against many of those rules – may seem critical of them. I do not choose to set myself up in that judgmental position. I simply want to share what I have learned.

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Posted in Diversity, Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 7 Replies

Notes: On Teaching Validation

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 29, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

Notes on my seminar about Validation. I share what I have learned, how, and what I have come to believe validation is.

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged dialogue, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, point of view, safety, share, validation | Leave a reply

Notes: On Teaching Mirroring

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 1, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 8, 2020 2

These are my notes for teaching Mirroring and for a class on “How to Teach Mirroring.”

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 18, 2007 by Al TurtleDecember 7, 2017  

Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

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