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The Power of Passivity: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 28, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 6

This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

Practical Application of Communologue

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 15, 2007 by Al TurtleJanuary 3, 2014 4

This is a writeup of an application of Communologue in a project that I completed 2003-2004.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged boundary, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, trust, validation | 4 Replies

Facilitating Dialogue: A Strong Technique

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 25, 2007 by Al TurtleJanuary 3, 2014  

This is a technique I use in the office when people are very reactive about an incident. I use it often. I have noticed that I refer to it in one of my most popular articles – on Resentments. Yet, nowhere have I written up how to do it. So, here goes.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged dialogue, feelings, mirroring, point of view, pulling, safety, share, validation | Leave a reply

What's in a Word: “Master” and “Slave”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 25, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 25, 2007  

I have been using the terms “Master” and “Slave” for quite some time and have not ever found any terms that are more useful in dealing with the problems of Autonomy. However, over the years my usage has stirred up some controversy and even distress in people. At this point I have no plans to change my terms. At the same time I thought I would share a bit about the wonderful controversies.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, share | Leave a reply

Avoid becoming a Bully, yourself!

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on December 9, 2006 by Al TurtleAugust 25, 2015  

A conversation with a relationship therapist about avoiding becoming a Bully.

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Posted in Autonomy, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, safety, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Making Amends

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 16, 2006 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 10

Use this process when you want to apologize for something you have done. Its a way to say "I'm sorry" that works.

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Posted in Healing the Past, Skills | Tagged dialogue, fault, feelings, mirroring, share, validation | 10 Replies

An Application of Communologue: United Way of Kootenai County

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 11, 2006 by Al TurtleJuly 7, 2023  

By Donald L. Gibbon. Northern Idaho sounds like it should be about as far away from 21st century social ills as you could get and still have access to modern America’s social benefits. Coeur d’Alene, known to demographers and government bureaucrats as CdA, has a population of only about 35,000, but it’s still the largest town in the state north of Boise, some 460 long miles to the south.

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Guiding Communologue

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 2, 2006 by Al TurtleFebruary 8, 2019  

A list of interventions that can be used to create and maintain a dialogical group atmosphere. A new guideline added on Nov 27, '07.

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The Odd Dialogue Practice

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 18, 2006 by Al TurtleMay 3, 2012 4

This is a beginner, Validation exercise. You are Uninformed at that point when you think your partner is doing something odd or that “doesn’t make sense to you.” If you were informed, you wouldn’t think it odd, and you would see your partner’s sense. Use this practice sheet to get good at Validating.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, point of view, validation | 4 Replies

Notes: Guiding Dialogue (5 July 2006)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 5, 2006 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019  

Notes for a Class on Guiding Dialogue

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