So what, after all is said and done is this thing called MasterTalk? I believe that because of some features of our language system we can speak things that do not exist. I see MasterTalk as a way of speaking from the omniscient point of view ? which exists in literature but not in real life.Continue reading →
I think the continuing great need in our culture and in our families is to become more aware of what is going on so that we can make better and better choices. As a person who has worked with thousands of couples, I have heard a lot. I have become familiar with lots of patterns. I have become aware of things that most people don�t seem to want to look at.Continue reading →
Sometimes people get the impression that I want all bullies to go away. But I really think they are valuable. Where would we all be without them? Now, what am I talking about!?Continue reading →
Probably about 70% of couples I see have a significant problem with controlling. What is this? How does it work? What can you do about it? In this article I will try to answer those questions and share solutions with you.Continue reading →
Everything we do is the result of our thinking, our feelings, our habits. Our actions are not "caused" by others. I think this is a very valuable concept and nicely replaces several myths that most people seem to hold.Continue reading →
Summary: This paper covers the two ways that people can come together and share (or not) their different views of reality. Relating via Master/Slave is only functional in certain situations: where efficiency is needed as in business, where property ownership is involved, in emergencies. Relating via Friend/Friend is normal during courtship. Master/Slave, commonly used in intimate relationships or families, is dysfunctional. Learn the critical skills of Friend/Friend to end argument and prevent fighting. This is the first of three parts on Autonomy.Continue reading →
The chart that goes with the Master/Slave paper.Continue reading →
From the point of view of relationships, I think this “the disease of the disease”, the source behind so much trouble. Most everyone in our country suffers from this disease. And it is even taught on TV. I believe this is the source of MasterTalk.Continue reading →
I use these three terms (Master, Slave, Friend) to refer to the three positions from which and to which communication can be addressed. These are similar to the positions in Transactional Analysis of Parent, Child, and Adult. No one is a Master. They just speak, and perhaps think, from the Master position. No one is a Slave. They just speak from the Slave position.
MasterTalk seems extremely easy to identify in conversation and writing.
Handling the language of Master/Slave RelationshipsContinue reading →