This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.
Continue reading →This is so common. Oh, I feel sorry for everyone involved. I think I have seen this situation 6 times this month. A person calls in, ?their whole life has changed?, ?their dreams are shattered?, and ?they don?t know what to do.? Their partner of 5 years, 14 years, 33 years, has announced they are leaving, or they have packed up and gone, or they have found someone new and now want to cut the ties with their ?older? partner. The person calling feels surprised, betrayed and hurt. What to do?
Continue reading →This podcast, audio recording, is a reading of my paper on Controlling and includes additional material.
Continue reading →#11 – #20 of my Dialogical OneLiners
Continue reading →#1 – #10 of my Dialogical One Liners
Continue reading →Podcast of an Introduction to Dialogical One Liners.
Continue reading →Stop the Divorce: Now I am not saying that you are thinking the wrong thing. In fact, I am glad you are considering divorce. I don't think you would be thinking of this, if things were going well. I tend to believe you are thinking divorce as a last and worst choice.
Continue reading →Look, domestic violence is nothing more that the behavior of a bully or bullies who grew up learning that tantrums get you what you want. It is nothing more than the action of a person who is “in control,” doing what they were taught, over and over as they grew up. And it is a hard habit or learning to stop – just like any other habit that works sometimes. It will taper off or stop when that behavior clearly no longer works.
Continue reading →Relationship Help!: I've never met anyone whose intimate relationship couldn't use some help. We don't know how to solve everything. If our parents had trouble, they didn't know how to solve everything and thus they couldn't teach us.
At some point, each of us run up against problems that we don't have the tools to solve.
Marriage Help!: I've never met anyone whose marriage couldn't use some help. We don't know how to solve everything. If our parents had trouble, they didn't know how to solve everything and thus they couldn't teach us. As some point each of us run up against problems that we don't have the tools to solve. The wise thing to do at that point is to learn. Start to study. Look for people who have solved that trouble. Try new things. Read books. Get help. And don't wait. Most couples that come to me seem to wait until the very last moment.
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