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Caring Days: The Skill

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 12, 2005 by Al TurtleApril 12, 2005 6

One important issue that all couples face is making things fair and keeping them that way. I believe things are fair when two people both believe they are fair. When either thinks it's not fair, then it isn't. Takes only one for unfairness, and it takes two for it to be fair.

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Posted in Safety and Trust | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, mirroring, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

Story: Are you trying to love and not getting anywhere?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 5, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 1

I learn a lot from the men in my men’s group. We talk of safety and validation all the time. Here is a story about wasting your energy on the wrong stuff – loving in a way that doesn't work.

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Posted in Diversity, Stories | Tagged feelings, peace, safety, trust, validation | 1 Reply

Excellent Boundaries

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 24, 2005 by Al TurtleJuly 7, 2023 6

Several years ago, I was asked during a class, “How do you know that you have a great relationship?” I found myself mentioning four attributes – one was “excellent boundaries.” Someone then asked, “How would you recognize excellent boundaries? What are their indicators?” I thought about that for several weeks. I came up with a list. I have found this list quite provocative.

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Posted in Boundaries, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, make sense, mirroring, share, validation | 6 Replies

Being Dialogical: Sharing

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 24, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

I want share my beliefs that being “dialogical” very much involves choices of what to share, when to share it, and acute clarity about boundaries. One choice is the “to share or not to share” choice. Another is the “when to share and when not to share” choice. And another is the “how to share” choice.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, mirroring, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

MASTER/SLAVE, Two World Problem: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 22, 2005 by Al TurtleMarch 22, 2020 20

Summary: This paper covers the two ways that people can come together and share (or not) their different views of reality. Relating via Master/Slave is only functional in certain situations: where efficiency is needed as in business, where property ownership is involved, in emergencies. Relating via Friend/Friend is normal during courtship. Master/Slave, commonly used in intimate relationships or families, is dysfunctional. Learn the critical skills of Friend/Friend to end argument and prevent fighting.  This is the first of three parts on Autonomy. 

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share | 20 Replies

Directions to Go

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 18, 2005 by Al TurtleFebruary 7, 2019 6

A listing of possible relationship problems – linked to solutions.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, essay, feelings, make sense, master-slave, safety, trust, validation | 6 Replies

Resentments: Getting Rid of Them

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2005 by Al TurtleAugust 8, 2013 21

This paper discusses the issue of Resentment that from time to time becomes an important issue in couples or between groups of people. It includes suggestions on how to remove the resentment. I believe this cannot be done, passively, by waiting. Resentment does not seem to go away by letting time pass. I believe resentment only goes away via the use of validation, and dialogue.

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Posted in Diversity, Healing the Past, Reliable Membership, Solving Problems | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 21 Replies

Mirroring: The Skill

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 14, 2005 by Al TurtleJuly 15, 2012 2

This is the training tool for communication. It's purpose is to train people in the 52 distinct skills necessary for making speakers feel heard and making listeners relaxed while listening to anything.

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Posted in Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, pulling, validation | 2 Replies

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