Al at Two Medicine Lake, 2005
To Imago Therapists
An open letter (probably with lots of typos) that I wrote to any and all Imago Therapists during my vacation in the mountains in early September 2005. In it I pose an important question. Is what I am doing "Imago?"
Continue reading →USS Edson DD-946, leaving Pearl Harbour, Hawaii, 1964
USS Edson DD-946
USS Edson DD-946
I sailed in her from 1964 thru 1966. We shared together the wild experiences of the Tonkin Gulf in Viet Nam. She was a work horse and I learned a lot about hard times.
Behavior Change Requests (BCRs)
I really like being efficient. Doing something over and over that doesn?t work seems an utter waste to me. Thus Behavior Change Requests (BCRs) are for me wonderful. How many times have I asked myself, ?Specifically, what can I do to make things better?? and gotten no answer. I used to think on my gravestone they would write, ?He tried.? Now, I think they might write, ?He did it.? I love finding out WHAT WORKS! (This article is part of the Healing Frustrations paper.)
Continue reading →Healing Frustrations: The Essay
I believe that Frustrations are the critical element to making progress in a Relationship. Healing Frustrations is the key. I call it the ?ratchet? process because , like a ratchet wrench, it makes things move forward and you can?t back up. The following essay contains what I see as the background for dealing with frustrations. It clears up a lot of misunderstandings and can help you stop wasting time and energy in doing things that do not work.
Frustrations: A Chart
This is a chart that goes with the Healing Frustrations essay. I share this with anyone in a group or in my office who is trying to understand how to approach Frustrations.
Continue reading →Priest Lake, Idaho, Summer 2005
Story: SeaPeople and Their Ships
A story I wrote ten years ago about raising children and the responsibility for doing a good job. I believe parents do their best, and frequently their best is not very good.
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