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Vintage Love: What does it look like?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJuly 11, 2013 1

I got this question, recently. Apparently in my Map of Relationships I have not described it enough. I guess I just referred to it as a "place" that people, all people want to go to. Well, ok, I'll share some thoughts on it.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, master-slave, safety, share, trust, university of life, validation | 1 Reply

“Out of the Blue” means “Read the Tea Leaves”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019 37

So many times I've heard the phrase, "he/she did that out of the blue." I love the phrase. It seems so colorful. And also many people write me, and read my thoughts, about what to do when he/she leaves. Put these two issues together and I give you this article.

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Posted in Communication, Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, dialogue, make sense, pulling, share, trust, validation | 37 Replies

Three-Drawer Tool Box

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on December 4, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

I believe that everyone needs a three-drawer tool box. Each drawer represents different tools or skills needed in life.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships, Skills | Tagged dialogue, essay, fault, share | Leave a reply

“He's leaving. I'm trying.”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 6, 2008 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 3

This is the story of a woman who believes her partner is leaving, and doesn't want him to. She kinda followed him across the country, but managed to keep learning the lesson, “Work on your self, visibly.” She's good, but learning is not easy! (Names have been changed)

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Posted in Fan Letters, Map of Relationships | Tagged dialogue, fault, feelings, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

The Map of Relationships: A Chart

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 25, 2008 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 2

This is a chart of my understandings of how intimate relationships work in printable B&W and Color versions.  I hand this chart to anyone who is serious about getting in or out of good relationships.  I use this chart on my whiteboard when I am teaching The Map of Relationships.

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Getting an Answer: When He/She Won’t Make a Decision

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 26, 2007 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012 21

A recent letter sparked me to thinking about how I handle this tough situation. I have been using this all purpose skill for a dozen years, recommending it to my clients. Some use it. Some don’t. Sometimes it makes things “better.” Sometimes it seems to make things “worse.” Life is like that. Take a-look.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership, Solving Problems | Tagged affair, feelings, trust, university of life | 21 Replies

Notes: Starting a New Couple (First Session)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 18, 2007 by Al TurtleDecember 7, 2017  

Notes for a telephone class on my way of doing a first Couple's Session.

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Posted in Diversity, Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership, Skills | Tagged affair, boundary, choice point, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mirroring, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Find Mr. Right or Ms. Right

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 21, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 21

This question comes in often. “I am single and am looking for a partner. I know I have defects. How do I attract the right partner, one I can work with? How do I go about it?”

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Posted in Map of Relationships, Reliable Membership | Tagged feelings, Imago, point of view, safety, trust, university of life | 21 Replies

Working, Long-Term, on your Marriage / Relationship

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 30, 2006 by Al TurtleApril 13, 2013  

Working for the long haul. Let's say you two make it through learning the skills critical to "getting along." Now what? Here's the view after you get over that first hump.

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Case History: Trust

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 30, 2006 by Al TurtleApril 21, 2020  

A wife asking for help at recovering trust for herself in her relationship after she and “he” have separated, come back together, and she no longer believes that he had been faithful during the separation time.

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