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To Imago Therapists

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2005 by Al TurtleFebruary 7, 2019 3

An open letter (probably with lots of typos) that I wrote to any and all Imago Therapists during my vacation in the mountains in early September 2005. In it I pose an important question. Is what I am doing "Imago?"

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Posted in Diversity, Personal, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 3 Replies

Resentments: Getting Rid of Them

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2005 by Al TurtleAugust 8, 2013 21

This paper discusses the issue of Resentment that from time to time becomes an important issue in couples or between groups of people. It includes suggestions on how to remove the resentment. I believe this cannot be done, passively, by waiting. Resentment does not seem to go away by letting time pass. I believe resentment only goes away via the use of validation, and dialogue.

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Posted in Diversity, Healing the Past, Reliable Membership, Solving Problems | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 21 Replies

Working, Long-Term, on your Marriage / Relationship

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on November 30, 2006 by Al TurtleApril 13, 2013  

Working for the long haul. Let's say you two make it through learning the skills critical to "getting along." Now what? Here's the view after you get over that first hump.

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Posted in Main Page, Map of Relationships | Tagged fault, feelings, Imago, pulling, safety, trust, university of life | Leave a reply

Behavior Change Requests (BCRs)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on August 17, 2005 by Al TurtleJuly 13, 2021  

I really like being efficient. Doing something over and over that doesn?t work seems an utter waste to me. Thus Behavior Change Requests (BCRs) are for me wonderful. How many times have I asked myself, ?Specifically, what can I do to make things better?? and gotten no answer. I used to think on my gravestone they would write, ?He tried.? Now, I think they might write, ?He did it.? I love finding out WHAT WORKS! (This article is part of the Healing Frustrations paper.)

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Posted in Healing the Past | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Boundaries for Couples: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 10, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 22

Even as I began to understand about boundaries for individuals, I was still stunned by what wildness happens in a committed couple. People keep telling me that they can get along with anyone except their partner at home. I frequently watch professionally competent couples act like little, tantrum-throwing, children in my office. What are the boundary issues that make the experiences of couples, or an intimate relationships, so powerful? This paper covers what I have learned going on.

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Posted in Boundaries, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mirroring, narcisism, pulling, safety, share, trust | 22 Replies

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