“We haven’t had a fight since we got married,” Eh? Oh-oh.
Not something to brag about. When I see a couple, I always have a sinking feeling when they proudly affirm that they have never had a fight.
All that tells me is that
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they've only known each other for one week
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they are avoiding/denying the delicate issues
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they fear the relationship can't handle conflict, disagreement, differences
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they don't know how to communicate about conflict
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they've made a pledge to themselves or to each other that their love is so uniquely special that they will be the first couple in history to never disagree
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they're lying.
Bottom line: They don't understand that loving affirmation brings people together, but ability to effectively resolve (not avoid) conflict is a key to keeping people together over the long haul.
Cary Lantz, quoted in SmartMarriages.com 1999
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