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Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2007 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.

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Posted in Autonomy, Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, narcisism, point of view, safety, share, trust | 2 Replies

What's in a Word: “Master” and “Slave”

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 25, 2007 by Al TurtleFebruary 25, 2007  

I have been using the terms “Master” and “Slave” for quite some time and have not ever found any terms that are more useful in dealing with the problems of Autonomy. However, over the years my usage has stirred up some controversy and even distress in people. At this point I have no plans to change my terms. At the same time I thought I would share a bit about the wonderful controversies.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, share | Leave a reply

MASTER/SLAVE, Two World Problem: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 22, 2005 by Al TurtleMarch 22, 2020 20

Summary: This paper covers the two ways that people can come together and share (or not) their different views of reality. Relating via Master/Slave is only functional in certain situations: where efficiency is needed as in business, where property ownership is involved, in emergencies. Relating via Friend/Friend is normal during courtship. Master/Slave, commonly used in intimate relationships or families, is dysfunctional. Learn the critical skills of Friend/Friend to end argument and prevent fighting.  This is the first of three parts on Autonomy. 

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share | 20 Replies

MasterTalk: Samples of Dealing with it.

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 12, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 12, 2013 5

I use these three terms (Master, Slave, Friend) to refer to the three positions from which and to which communication can be addressed. These are similar to the positions in Transactional Analysis of Parent, Child, and Adult. No one is a Master. They just speak, and perhaps think, from the Master position. No one is a Slave. They just speak from the Slave position.
MasterTalk seems extremely easy to identify in conversation and writing.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, point of view, share | 5 Replies

MasterTalk: The Language

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 12, 2005 by Al TurtleOctober 29, 2012  

Handling the language of Master/Slave Relationships

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | Leave a reply

The Power of Passivity: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 28, 2007 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 6

This is a paper about the problem of "victimicity." It is Part 2 of my work on Master/Slave and Autonomy. You may want to read it with some caution, particularly because, based on feedback, this seems to be almost "graduate level" relationship material. It seems you really must be prepared to read it. Please be patient with me, and with yourselves. More material was added 7/5/07. I am sure there will still be minor changes and additions – and one last bit.

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 6 Replies

Glossary of Terms

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 7, 2006 by Al TurtleJanuary 24, 2023 2

This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, References, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Peace Building: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 6, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

When two people come together, they have a choice: to move toward Peace or to move toward War. The choices and the actions/habits that go with them are clear when one studies couples who are successful at bringing lasting Peace and those who are not.  (Sadly, most people I meet chose war!) What do you chose?  Here's my essay on this situation.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, essay, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

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Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 2, 2012 by AlApril 16, 2015

Al and Sandra’s Personal Goals Our personal Goal is working to free individuals and couples from that which holds them back.  We hope to encourage the rights of individuals to continue on their personal journeys toward health, happiness and contribution … Continue reading →

The Other Feelings

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleOctober 23, 2014 2

For years I have been teaching and “thinking” about Feelings. I have been teaching what I call , the Four Prime Feelings for years: Fear, Anger, Sorrow, and Joy. But more and more I have become aware of a set of feelings that are very important and which are not usually called emotions. I think they are.

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Posted in Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, need for connection, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

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