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Facilitating Dialogue: A Strong Technique

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 25, 2007 by Al TurtleJanuary 3, 2014  

This is a technique I use in the office when people are very reactive about an incident. I use it often. I have noticed that I refer to it in one of my most popular articles – on Resentments. Yet, nowhere have I written up how to do it. So, here goes.

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The Odd Dialogue Practice

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 18, 2006 by Al TurtleMay 3, 2012 4

This is a beginner, Validation exercise. You are Uninformed at that point when you think your partner is doing something odd or that “doesn’t make sense to you.” If you were informed, you wouldn’t think it odd, and you would see your partner’s sense. Use this practice sheet to get good at Validating.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, point of view, validation | 4 Replies

Notes: Guiding Dialogue (5 July 2006)

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 5, 2006 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019  

Notes for a Class on Guiding Dialogue

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, peace, pulling, share, validation | Leave a reply

The Logic of Power Differentials: Heirarchy and Dialogue

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on June 14, 2005 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 2

I am presenting this paper as a discussion of dialogue norms to use in Power Differential Relationships. My goal is to re-approach One-up/One-down situations from the relational model, the dialogical model that is central to Imago Relationship theory and practice.
The paper is divided into three sections:
1. Types of Power Differential Situations
2. Decision Making as the legitimate reason for Power Differential Situations
3. The Four Challenges facing groups trying to make decisions.

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Posted in Diversity, Peace Building, Reliable Membership | Tagged affair, boundary, dialogue, feelings, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, passivity, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Did Dialogue Occur?

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 23, 2005 by Al TurtleMay 3, 2012  

This is a way of scoring to see if you were experiencing dialogue or just normal chaotic conversation.

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Al’s Communologue Guidelines, Principles, Rules

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2021 by AlFebruary 17, 2021  

This is a very brief (bullet format) summary of the Rules and Principles I have used in guiding Communologue.

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The Road to Empathy: The Essay

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 2, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 5

How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, essay, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, need for connection, peace, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 5 Replies

Points of View

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on September 18, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019 8

Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | 8 Replies

The Other Feelings

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleOctober 23, 2014 2

For years I have been teaching and “thinking” about Feelings. I have been teaching what I call , the Four Prime Feelings for years: Fear, Anger, Sorrow, and Joy. But more and more I have become aware of a set of feelings that are very important and which are not usually called emotions. I think they are.

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Posted in Feelings and Emotions, Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, mirroring, need for connection, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

Learning this Stuff: Put ’em Up!

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 10, 2010 by Al TurtleJune 16, 2019  

A couple of days ago I got a note from a friend letting me in on her delight sharing the posters I have. Probably half a dozen times I have heard from people who used this method of learning the “wisdom” that I am passing on to you all.

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