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One Liners that have helped me stay Dialogical

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 4, 2014 by Al TurtleJune 7, 2014 1

I can think of nothing as important as getting to be, and staying, Dialogical. It makes possible solutions to all the relationship troubles. This is the list of one line reminders that I have used over the past 15 years to remind me of "a better way of getting along." I often have had a piece of paper with one of these phrases on my wall (sometimes many walls) at home or in my office where I can see it every day. These are learning tools.

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Posted in Main Page | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, peace, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 1 Reply

Being Dialogical & Avoiding MasterTalk

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on May 8, 2007 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

I think that “Being Dialogical” is the inverse of being Emotionally Symbiotic. If we keep an ear out for MasterTalk, and remove it, we can easily and durably stay in a Dialogical space.

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Posted in Autonomy, Communication | Tagged dialogue, feelings, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, narcisism, point of view, safety, share, trust | 2 Replies

Being Dialogical: Sharing

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 24, 2005 by Al TurtleSeptember 25, 2012  

I want share my beliefs that being “dialogical” very much involves choices of what to share, when to share it, and acute clarity about boundaries. One choice is the “to share or not to share” choice. Another is the “when to share and when not to share” choice. And another is the “how to share” choice.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity | Tagged boundary, dialogue, feelings, mirroring, point of view, safety, share, trust, validation | Leave a reply

Interviewing the Elephant

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on July 7, 2006 by Al TurtleFebruary 10, 2019  

About guiding people into dialogical space.

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Posted in Communication, Diversity, Peace Building | Tagged dialogue, Imago, master-slave, mastertalk, peace, point of view, safety, share, trust | Leave a reply

“MasterTalk”: Recognizing it gets even simpler

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on February 18, 2008 by Al TurtleFebruary 18, 2008  

Recognizing MasterTalk, avoiding it, reframing it gets simpler.

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Posted in Autonomy | Tagged dialogue, feelings, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, share | Leave a reply

Glossary of Terms

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on April 7, 2006 by Al TurtleAugust 12, 2020 2

This is an often requested list of brief definitions of my words. From time to time I will add to this list. Insert these words in the Search function on the front page of my website to see the articles where I use these terms.

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Posted in Diversity, Main Page, References, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, codependency, codependent, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, make sense, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, passivity, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 2 Replies

TimeOuts: The Skill

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 29, 2005 by Al TurtleNovember 4, 2012 19

A TimeOut is a relational tool and is an essential skill for any intimate relationship. Its purpose is to remove pressure from the relationship. Use a TimeOut whenever you feel overwhelmed, pressed, chased, pursued, cornered, etc.

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Posted in Reliable Membership | Tagged dialogue, feelings | 19 Replies

PreValidation: More Thoughts

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2005 by Al TurtleMarch 17, 2005  

Here are some more thoughts about PreValidation and Validation.

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Posted in Diversity | Tagged dialogue, feelings, Imago, make sense, mirroring, narcisism, peace, point of view, share, validation | Leave a reply

Resentments: Getting Rid of Them

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 17, 2005 by Al TurtleAugust 8, 2013 21

This paper discusses the issue of Resentment that from time to time becomes an important issue in couples or between groups of people. It includes suggestions on how to remove the resentment. I believe this cannot be done, passively, by waiting. Resentment does not seem to go away by letting time pass. I believe resentment only goes away via the use of validation, and dialogue.

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Posted in Diversity, Healing the Past, Reliable Membership, Solving Problems | Tagged boundary, dialogue, fault, feelings, Imago, mirroring, passivity, pulling, safety, share, trust, validation | 21 Replies

MasterTalk: The Language

Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom Posted on March 12, 2005 by Al TurtleOctober 29, 2012  

Handling the language of Master/Slave Relationships

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Posted in Autonomy, Diversity, Reliable Membership | Tagged boundary, dialogue, master-slave, mastertalk, mirroring, narcisism, point of view, pulling, safety, share, trust | Leave a reply

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