This began as an answer to a question on the Marriage Advocates website. Twas written back in February of 2011. Quote: I have found that I’m very bad at identifying when other people’s lizard, particularly my partner’s, is triggered. I really …Continue reading →
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle5
How about it? Want to learn to be empathic? Want to know when you aren't? Want to improve? I believe that more and more people will be talking about the “need for more empathy.” I believe that the primary cause of conflict in our families, our partnerships, our business, our marriages, our political communities, our churches, and in the world, is a pronounced lack of reliable empathic skills.
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle8
Relationship confusion. Though I have written many times about this topic, I still find it the hardest for people to grasp. And in all my experience of relating, in starting a relationship, recovering one, maintain a high reliable quality of connection, this is the most important. Here is another attempt to make the relational situation clearer. [I’ve also been reminded that this is Advanced Relationship material – not for beginners.]
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle37
So many times I've heard the phrase, "he/she did that out of the blue." I love the phrase. It seems so colorful. And also many people write me, and read my thoughts, about what to do when he/she leaves. Put these two issues together and I give you this article.
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle13
If you have been following my work through Part One: Master/Slave and Part Two: Power of Passivity, then this may be your next stop. I decided to share my path down a bit deeper into the basement. Be warned! The steps down here may be tippy.
Al Turtle's Relationship WisdomPosted on by Al Turtle2
I have been asked recently by people who are reading my papers on boundaries how to decide if something is mine or my partner's or what?? I was writing a response, and decided I'd better post it for everyone.