Dear Cricket, I see you posted this next to my article on “It takes one to make a marriage, two to make a divorce.” First let me share that I am imagining your pain and shock and frustration and deep sense of betrayal. Hope I got that. My gosh how that all must hurt. Let me mirror you message just a bit along with some thoughtful additions. I gather you and your husband fell in love somewhat over 27 years ago. During those year things went on in him and in you. Some of what went on in you led to expressing anger. Most of what went on in him, you didn’t know about – he kept it to himself and/or you didn’t see it. Over the past 15 months or so, he began to speak/act up more than before and neither of you knew how to get to the bottom of the upheaval and fix it. For you, at least, the experience got worse. I am going to guess that you both experienced a bunch of anger being felt and expressed. I imagine that you still don't really understand what is going on in him. I hope you want him back. I wrote an article for you. Using Turtle Logic. This is about how I see problems in relationships and how I go about working with them. Good luck.