Dear Minou, Your question deserves a quick and thoughful answer and I have only a few minutes. So I fear this may not be full enough. Is there hope? Yup. Safety is the first issue and most critical. Lack of it makes people say things just to make themselves safe. When feeling safe and trusting in that safety, people will tell their truth. The critical factor is "feeling safe and trusting in that safety." Some people have been so hurt while speaking up, that it takes a long time to build that sense of safety. I think it can and has to be done. Good luck, Al