How do you know when it's time to give up on a marriage and just move on? I am completely numb. The things that were once important to me in this relationship aren't now. I no longer seem to want anything from it, or to give any more to it. I started to feel this way about a year ago, when my husband announced he was leaving me. He didn't leave. I thought I was off balance, feeling insecure and would work my out of it, but I'm not. The more soul searching I do, the more I just feel alienated and apathetic.