Dear Anon, I hear your thought and used to think pretty much the same thing. I found my thinking both faulty and non-productive. Almost all my website is about this topic, starting with "All people make Sense all the time". I've made a new Power Point on the problem and will try to post it online (somehow) soon. True anything can get misunderstood, if no one knows how to go about the skill of understanding. My exerience is that anything can be understood as long as one person shares and the other person listens. Good luck for more reading. Check out my work on Prevalidation and Validation.