An Interview Series Comment posted by: kez Date July 11, 2010 Hi Al, thanks for your comments. My spouse refuses point blank to go to a marriage counsellor and just says he is 'done and dusted'. Still wants to be friends (why do they always think that is so easy? When you genuinely love someone you don't go from love to feeling 'nice' just like that!). I did ask if he would at least give me three months to work on positive actions and reconnection etc. ( I thought this would be reasonable since I had complied with his three month time out). However, won't budge. I have given him Harville Hendrix's book and requested he read that with no expectation on my part - but hopefully it will help him sort out some of his stuff. I will now just continue to work on me. I told him that I truly wish him to be happy and this is heartfelt on my part (yes I love him that much!) Anyway thankyou again al, you have really helped me in some of my darkest hours (does the pain ever go away Al?) regards, kez