Dear Anonymous, Good question. One thought is start looking into the quality of the communication now and over the period before the "break up." I suggest this as a learning situation to study your part in narrowing the communication channel to this extreme. It may also be topic to drop into the really small channel you have that may lead to opening it up again. So, let's see if I can lay down a principle. Whenever your partner is leaving, and you don't want that, follow the four steps in What to do when he/she leaves. If that works and communication begins again, continue Steps 1,2, and 4. Extend step 3 to include your partner. Learn your part in the past troubles and fix yourself. Witness, but do not focus, on their part! Good luck.