Hi Al, ill give you a rundown of whats happend. My fiance and I were living together with her family for 3 years and we were arguing constantly and was getting worse. I am the clinger and she is the avoider. 2 Weeks ago we had another argument and she called it quits, she packed most of my stuff and i was gone. I had to go back and get more things 2 days later. She was crying and saying its not for long 3 months and she will come back but wanted me to seek help. 1 week later we cross paths and has changed her mind completly. saying she doesnt think its going to happen because to many people have gotten involved. She still has the engagement ring and last time i saw her was still wearing it. I still have a few things there aswell. I have read your 4 rules and am going to stick to them but now i have read this and dont know what to do. You have very thorough information and only till now i know i was 1500 love point clinger and she was a 50 point avoider. Thank you