Great question and it is often asked by people who have discovered "what is going on in relationships." There are two answers, for me. I believe you will "fall in love" with a) a person who "seems to be leading you in the direction of Vintage Love," and b) someone who comforts your unconscious by being familiar. I gather that the more they seem to be "Mr./Ms. Right i.e. the more familiar they are, the more heavily you will fall in love. By learning your lessons, the lessons you would have learned if you had been raised by people who acted congruent with the Biological Dream, the more you will tend to "trade up" and marry less problematical people. However, whoever you fall in love with will have the capacity to put you in contact with the lessons you haven't yet learned! So there is always work ahead right after the Romantic Period wears off. Only way to skip all of this that I know is to let someone else select your partner, someone you won't fall in love with for many years. A friend of mine from Africa told me a story. He said, 'You Americans are crazy. You start your relationships on the top of the hill, in feelings of glory, with your heads in the clouds. What direction is ahead of you? Downhill. In our village my parents met in an arranged marriage at the bottom of a valley. What direction could they go? Up. It took them many, many years to "fall in love," but they did and it was reliable.' So, Ver44, how about looking for the lesson for you in your attraction to strong. dominant and critical men. It's a starting place. Good luck.