I have received a lot of comfort from your website. I have also learned a lot about communication. I am the clinger and I love to talk! But, talking is not communicating. That is something I have not learned how to do very well and it has caused me problems in my intimate relationships. I took an imago therapy course years ago in my first marriage, but never got to use it because my husband decided to leave the marriage. He did try to come back years later, but it was too late by then. In my present relationship, my partner says he is done and wants out. We are still living together because I need to find a place to move to. I am trying to practice not pushing and giving him space. It's hard to do when you still live together. I have said very little and he still says I talk too much. He blames me for everything and does not take any responsibility for the break up. To me, it really doesn't matter whose right and whose wrong. I just want us to stay together and start fresh. He doesn't want to. I am going to counseling, not pushing, and trying to take care of myself. I think he still sees this a manipulation. I wrote a letter of apology. He says it's just another way of talking. I feel like I'm being stonewalled and should just give up. Any suggestions? Right now, I'm just trying not to be dramatic or overly emotional thereby adding more fuel to the fire. Reading your website helps me with all of this. Thanks again Al for your insight. Janine Land janine_land@yahoo.com