Thank you for replying to me. OK. I like that “But I prefer to a) hear its warning and b) choose a wise way of dealing with the situation I am facing.” The way I understand this is instead of fleeing, freezing, submitting or fighting, is to train the Lizard to take more time in assessing if I am in life-death situation or not, time to think things through, when my life is not in danger, because I would know if it was. Am I on the right path to understand your idea? I completely agree with you that one should never ignore his-her Lizard, it is what kept us alive since the evolution. My problem is to recognise and trust myself enough to know that 1) I will be ok 2) I will recognise that my boundaries have been crossed and 3) I will know what to do about it to fix it. My reflex reaction for the 3) above is to leave the relationship. That is a very strong reaction in me. But even when I have left relationships, I sure find someone to give me the opportunity to deal with the same problem all over again. When I think of this: “to train your cortex into taking care of your Lizard, rather than letting your Lizard rule your cortex”, I see a huge amount of work to retrain myself, my reactions, to whatever I find violates my boundaries, which I must say are very weak. I love your writing about boundaries, which has always been an issue for me. I am used to let people cross my boundaries and do nothing about it at the moment, to keep silent about it, then to just flee or completely swept things under the carpet and let resentment built. I think I must have shut down a part of me that was telling me to keep safe, instead, I ignored it. I think I know where it comes from. I have a lot of work ahead of me. Yes, I have to work on fixing that lie-manipulation problem, without getting stuck into strong old patterns. What a challenge! A great positive one! Thank you.