Oh I love this question too!! I'm the clinger, and started off as a slave with my husband - I was 17, he was my first relationship - but found his master tendencies so annoying that I very quickly turned into a master, literally just to show him how annoying it was, but all it lead to was him sliding into passive master, and me displaying masterful -behaviour but also being slavish.... in the way that I desperately was trying to figure out how to make him happy, but with no input on his part. I'm afraid the only was for this to work is for him to remove himself from being a passive master and I'm also afraid that I can't somehow MAKE it happen. EEEK this is terrifying. Sorry I might have gotten the labels of behaviour mixed up, but I'm definitely interested in help for passive masters.